I’m #Beinggentle in 2023
If you know me at all, you know I am transparent about my healing journey. Everyone has trauma and loss and grief and we all find ways to cope, but I reached my resilience limit at the end of 2019 after about 18 months of “big” events and I realized that coping was no longer working for me. I needed change, healing, a new mindset, and a new life. I trained to be a coach in 2020, while doing some therapy at the same time, and then really dug into therapy and healing in 2021 and 2022 and continuing into this year.
In addition to coaching and traditional therapy (which are not the same), at the end of 2022 I decided to try hypnotherapy. It’s been an amazing experience for me. If you are open to it at all I would highly recommend giving it a try with a trained and certified hypnotherapist. I am a very visual person so the images my mind conjures are vivid.
Recently I talked with my traditional therapist some things that have been showing up with my hypnotherapist and she noticed something that had slipped by me. My Inner Wisdom has my back. No matter what I’m struggling with, she steps in and cares for me.
She has comforted my inner child, numerous times, when I have been sad or hurt or angry.
She has relentlessly disrupted my inner critic, who looks like Jabba the Hutt. She has stepped in between him and me. She has closed him behind doors. She used a bulldozer and shoved him off a cliff. He showed up this week disguised as Ursula the Sea Witch and my Inner Wisdom put duct tape over her mouth to get her to shut up.
She has detonated explosives to clear a path forward.
She sweeps and cleans away things that I find distracting.
She gave me a new brain when mine was sabotaging my progress.
She has tried to patch my broken heart, multiple times, before finally handing me a new one because the old one was beyond repair.
When she does these badass things for me, she looks at me first and then she smiles and/or winks.
So what does my hypnotherapy journey have to do with coaching? My therapist did what I often do as coach: she noticed a pattern and pointed it out to me. As a coach, I listen to the words a client uses, how they talk to themselves, what judgments they have about themselves and others. I point out patterns in speech or behavior or mindset. Sometimes discovering a pattern is the key to busting through a barrier.
I’m grateful to be at a place in my life where I know my Inner Wisdom is there, caring for me, loving me, helping me love myself in the ways I have loved others. Here’s to #beinggentle with myself.
